Fear vs Respect

Fear is a negative feeling and shows one’s weakness. It comes when one person is guilty of something or sheer helplessness. This feeling is felt when one senses danger, which can occur anywhere, at work, with family, or with friends. It is very truly said by Franklin D. Roosevelt that “The only thing we have to fear is fear itself”. Rather than being afraid of other things, we should be scared of fear itself. Fear scares one from the repercussion before they act upon it.

Respect is a positive feeling and shows one’s strength. It is something that one has to earn, and cannot force others to respect them. “Respect toward others can’t be imposed. It’s a blessing.. or learning the hard way” – Toba Beta. Correctly said, we cannot force ourselves to respect somebody. This is a natural feeling that comes inside us for eg, respecting our teachers, parents. Even when we are told that we should respect them as they are elder to us, the urge should be from within us to respect them.

It is said that “It is better to be respected by few than to be feared by all”. When a person is scared of something, then he/she will lose the self- confidence that they have inside themselves whereas when we are given respect by others, our confidence level rises to some extent. Respect can never be measured in quantity and can never be traded. It is something which is built over time but can also be lost in blink of an eye. To earn respect from others, we must consider their feelings and thoughts. Fear can manipulate and control people’s life. But respect is a positive aspect and everybody wants it and nobody wants to lose it.

To succeed in life, one should clear their mind from all the fears and devote it to positive thoughts. Respect should never be given out of fear, rather it should be given out of love. In the same way, we cannot gain respect from others by fearing them. People who give respect out of fear is just for certain period of time. Gaining respect is just a reflection of giving respect. So, in order to be respected, we should first learn how to respect others. So, to conclude I would just say that fear can destroy a person but respect can re-build the confidence inside them.

Confidence vs Arrogance

Before starting off with the difference, let us first know what these terms actually are.   “If you have no confidence in self, you are twice defeated in the race of life. With confidence, you have won before you have started.” – Marcus Tullius Cicero 
Confidence is a positive feeling which a peace-minded person possesses and believes not only in himself but also in others, who do not feel the urge to prove themselves to others. A confident person believes he/she is right and is not afraid of others who see things from a different point of view.                                                                                          

On the other hand Arrogance – “It is a creature. It does not have senses. It has only a sharp tongue and the pointing finger. “ – Toba Beta 
Well defined, it is a false perception, a negative attitude and egoist people who think that they are better than everybody else. They have the idea that they are superior and they do not listen to others. If things do not work as expected, they either blame others or the situation itself.                                                                           

“There’s a thin line between Confidence and Arrogance. It’s called Humility. Confidence smiles. Arrogance smirks." – Anonymous
Truly said, humility is the quality of being respectful. If this thin line breaks, it will lead to arrogance, the same way when confidence smiles, arrogance smiles too but in a silly way. People usually get confused with these terms. These terms may look similar but if we look closely they are totally different in real life. Confidence is good but too much of confidence can lead to arrogance. Likewise, too much of a good thing turns into a bad thing. Confidence is fearless, confident people have the belief that they can do anything anyone else can do and  are usually quiet and can stay alone. Whereas, arrogance is full of insecurity. Arrogant people believe that others can’t do what they can do and are actually loud. Arrogant person cannot be alone, they cannot be by themselves, and involves other people. Arrogant people attract those who have equal ego inside them. These people work together, and make others inferior to themselves. These people use each other, and when problems arises, they are found nowhere. Confident people never put others down to feel better about themselves or their achievements but arrogant people do feel this way.

Confident people are aware that nobody is perfect, so rather than pointing it out, they usually accept others as well as their own flaws, but on the other hand, arrogant people think that only they are correct. Confident people also accept other’s thoughts and views while arrogant people count their own thoughts and beliefs only. So, its clear that confidence and arrogance are North and South poles, and should be careful of not turning their confidence into overconfidence i.e., arrogance. So, middle place is always the best and balanced too.

Knowing myself..

      Ques.    Who am I?

Ans.     To be frank I am no special person but just a normal human being who loves being happy. Living a simple and normal life is all I wish for. I think I am a very cheerful girl who keeps smiling all the time, though I am a little mischievous too. I see myself as a very friendly person and at the same time very lazy too.  I am just a normal teenager who wants to fulfill all her dreams. So, I would like to conclude it by saying that I possess some good as well as some bad habits which I would like to overcome.   

Ques.    Where am I in my life?

Ans.      Right now, I am in a very crucial stage, where I need someone to guide me so that I can know what is wrong and what is right. I cannot actually be sure of ‘where am I’ but I know that whatever I am doing is not only my destiny but is also a decision for my upcoming future. So, the place that I am in is not determined. I am just in the process of making my career.

Ques.    Why am I doing this assignment?

Ans.      I am doing this assignment to actually know about myself. Before this, I never gave such a long thought upon myself. But now, by thinking about this, I am actually getting to know what am I. By doing this assignment, I am getting to know the strong as well as weak points inside me so that I can overcome all the weakness that I have.

Ques.    What am I going to be in five years from now and in 21 years from now?

Ans.     According to me, five years from now I would want to specialize in my field i.e., IT (after my Masters).  I want to be successful and make my parents very proud of me. Well, I’ve never thought of where I’ll be after 21. But, I actually want to be very successful, happy and want to spend my life peacefully.

Ques.   What is it that I have to develop myself to be what I should be in next 5 years and 21 years?

Ans.     There are a lot of things that I have to develop in myself. This is the only time when I can improve myself so that I can have a better career. All my hardwork will help me in making a better future, and also develop many inner qualities that I lack right now. And, 21 years is a very long time, so even if I think about it, I want to become an IT professionalist and right now improve myself accordingly.

Ques.    How serious am I to achieve the goal of my life?

Ans.    I am very serious about the goals that I have to achieve in my future. If I don’t work hard from now itself, I will never achieve success. I need to have patience and need to work hard which will improve my qualities and also develop some new qualities that will help me in my future. Few days back, I was not very serious about my studies but now I realize that without studies, I cannot reach my goals. To achieve something, to be something in life, a lot of hardwork is required, so I have prepared myself and I will start working very hard to achieve the desired goals.  

  

Different roles..

Different Roles that I play everyday

“Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” – Albert Einstein

Truly said, no matter what kind of roles we play everyday, life still goes on, and we have no control over it. I play many roles everyday, like a daughter, sister, student, friend while some roles are yet to be played in the near future. I won’t say that I am the best in playing these roles, but I still try to live up to people’s expectations. It is also truly said by Mae West that “You only live once, but if you do it right, once is enough.” As we are given just one life, we should make the best out of it and play the roles efficiently.

So, let me begin with some primary roles.

6.00 am in the morning, the worst part of my everyday life where I have to wake up for my morning classes. It was a normal Sunday morning where my dad was trying to wake me up and me being the usual lazy girl didn’t wanted to leave my cozy bed. I realized that I have to get up anyhow, so I woke up and went to freshen up. Then, later I went to the kitchen where my mom was preparing food for me. Though, I never like eating in the morning, I still have to because my mom gives a strange look. This happens almost everyday so whenever I say no to food, her same reaction is expected. Even after all this, I do eat because she wakes up early just to prepare food for me. Here, I realize I am playing the role of a daughter where I am giving them respect by agreeing to whatever they say.

Then, it was my college time. As I entered my college, I realized I will be playing two roles- one of a student and the other one of a friend. I was in café with some of my friends. There we were discussing about our assignment, different problems and also making fun of each other. However, then it was our class time. Our teacher was asking various questions, and I tried to give the right answers. He seemed happy as the answers given were correct. There, I was playing the role of a student. When I came back home, my brother was waiting for me. He was having some problems with his homeworks, so I helped him to get through it and there I was playing the role of an elder sister.

Just like primary roles, there are some secondary roles too that I play, may be not everyday, but once in a while.

While walking on the road, I saw a lot of garbage on the road. A thought came into my mind that if my single step of throwing the garbage in the dustbin can help our mother earth, then why not do that. Looking at the trash, I decided I will throw the wrappers in the dustbin from now on. There I was playing the role of a citizen, who’s trying to protect the global earth. Sometimes when I go shopping, I play the role of a customer, when I meet someone in my society, I play the role of a neighbor. Usually, these roles go unnoticed, but I still try to play it in an efficient way.

So, these are the different roles that I play everyday. Every role that I play has its own importance in my life. After giving it a great thought, I realize that I hardly ever notice about these roles that I play in my everyday life. Even if problems or sometime misunderstandings are there, I still try to perform the best and try to keep everyone happy.

Save the Mother Earth...

Here I will talk about our environment which is getting deteriorated day by day !!

As the topic itself says, our environment is degraded day by day. It is we people who should take care of it, as we are living in it, but we are so much busy in our own lives that we are neglecting our mother earth and depleting its resources. It is very well said by Henry David Thoreau that “What’s the use of a fine house if you haven’t got a tolerable planet to put it on?” Truly said, if we do not protect our planet, then our houses, no matter how big they are, won’t matter.

I consider myself as one of the threat to the environment as well. There are many activities done by me which is affecting our earth. Usually when I charge my mobile phone or laptop, I forget to unplug it after it is fully charged because of which electricity gets wasted. Talking about some positive aspects, I switch off the lights when not in use, close the water taps so that water doesn’t get wasted. Also, when I eat chocolates or any other thing contained in a plastic wrapper, I throw the wrapper in the garbage can.

There are many other ways in which we can protect our environment. For e.g., Use of CFL bulbs rather than tubelights which will consume less electricity. Wasting of water should be reduced and afforestation should be done. I, being an individual, am just a mere step so awareness must be created among people, so that, that mere step becomes a big step which will preserve our global earth. If we take care of small things, the big things will automatically fall into place. So, if we keep our environment clean and take care of it, the big problems which are rising day by day like global warming can be reduced to the very extent.

All about ME !!

The 5 words to describe myself:

CHILDHOOD: The place I can imagine is School.

The 5 words are:

Ø  Innocent

Ø  Naughty

Ø  Shy

Ø  Curious

Ø  Playful:  I was very playful since childhood. But when time passed by and I started growing up, I became more serious and to be frank not at all playful, due to many responsibilities. Though I miss being a child a lot.

DESCRIPTION ABOUT ME:

Since childhood, I was naughty as well as shy and curious about things. Depending upon the situation, when I am comfortable with someone I become very frank but when it comes to talking with strangers, it is a difficult thing for me. Like in the good old days, I still become curious about different things which I am interested in. I still carry many characteristics from my childhood and I don’t have any urge to change myself.

FAMILY: The place I can imagine is Home.

Ø  Supportive

Ø  Motivative

Ø  Caring

Ø  Strict: My parents were strict in my school days, and they taught me what is wrong and right so that when I grow up I must have the capability of making the correct decisions. Now, they leave most of my decisions on me as they have faith on me and now I can proudly say that it is their strict behavior that brought me till here.

Ø  Loving

DESCRIPTION ABOUT ME:

My parents were always supportive as well as loving and motivative. Though at times I used to get irritated but then later I realized that it was for my own good. I always respect them and thank them for everything that they have given me till now. I always obeyed them as well as their decisions and never went against it. I always love and take care of them and I will always support them.

FRIENDS: The place I can imagine is School as well as College.

The 5 words are:

Ø  Friendly

Ø  Trustworthy

Ø  Fun-loving

Ø  Frank

Ø  Reliable

DESCRIPTION ABOUT ME:

When it comes to friends, there are some characteristics which can define me. I am friendly, I am frank with all my friends.I find myself fun-loving because when I am with friends, I am me and I don’t care about rest of the world as I pour my heart out. My friends can totally rely on me for anything and I follow the rule that “It’s better to have less friends and real ones rather than a million fake friends”.. !!

Task 2

            MY PERSONALITY

Harmony-seeking Idealist:-

Yes, I agree that I am a "Harmony-seeking Idealist". Being forceful,  original and sensitive are the terms which can describe me well. When I decide that I need to do something, I stick to it until it is done. I do not like keeping things incomplete. I try to complete it in a proper way and proper time as well. Well, Yes I am very concerned about other's feelings, they matter a lot to me. I do understand other's feelings too. I even strictly follow the well-developed value systems. If I believe in something, then I do put all my faith in it. Though at times my decisions may not be right, but I am well respected when I do the right thing. I strongly agree that I do not like leading anyone and at the same time I do not like following anyone too. I am rather an individualistic type of person who likes do her things on her own. 

Careers that could fit me includes:

I was quite shocked to what I saw because it was totally different from what I am aim for. As I am studying IT, my aim is to become an IT professionalist. But the results were totally different that included missionaries, teachers, psychologists, musicians, writers or scientists. Doctors and chiropractors  surprised me the most as it is not my type. I never thought of me being in a medical line. As I am studying IT, I would rather like to have a career in it. 

The bar meter says that I am an introvert rather than extrovert. Yes, I agree to this because I feel shy and get nervous when it comes to talking with a stranger. I am a reserved kind of person but once I get comfortable with someone, I become an easy going and fun loving kind of person.



It shows that I am an intuitive. Yes, I agree because at times I go with my intuitions. I feel that things are based on facts and not on principles, so I use my intuitions to come up with a particular decision.



The bar meter is totally correct as when it comes to making up a decision I usually use my heart. My head and my heart are totally opposite to each other so rather than getting confused, at times I use my heart even when I have to make a tough decision.



The bar meter says that I am judgmental as well as well as perceiving. Well, both are equally important in my point of view so I agree with the bar meter. But first I like to perceive things and then judge so that I make a right decision.

Renowned persons with similar personality types:

Some of the people who resembles with my personality are Adam Sandler,Gillian Anderson,Jamie Foxx, Martin van Buren, Mel Gibson, Nicole Kidman, Oprah Winfrey and Tom Selleck.

This personality test gave me a clear picture of what I am. Some of the things are very accurate and I was quite shocked to see some results. The bar meter represented the true things that more priority is given to my heart. More introvert than extrovert, and I generally go with my intuitions. The result which was quite not suitable was the career that I could fit in i.e., writers, musician, scentists. These are and will never be my cup of tea. This test helped me in knowing myself in a much better and different way. 

Developing abilities

Work as a development team member, recognising the different roles within a team and different ways of organising teams.

Being a Computing student, the ability of being a good team member is very important. As different presentations are assigned to us, I would like to improve myself, know my roles and perform the best. If something goes wrong, it will not only affect the member, but it will be a problem for the whole group. Recognising my role and then implementing it will show that how capable I actually am. I should be able to organise my respective team so that there is better coordination between the group. 

Manage own learning and personal development, including using time management and organisational skills, with a focus on lifelong learning and professional development.

In today's world, being independent is very essential. Being independent does not mean that I have to stand alone, it means that I need to be responsible for my own learning. I surely lack the ability of time management. It is very necessary to learn how to manage time. Developing organisational skills and having a focus on better learning will lead to a better future. Change in attitude towards professional life will not only increase my abilities, but will also help me to focus towards the goal of the organisation as well as goal of my life.